The one thing that we need and desire as people is love. How strange it is that it can be one of the most difficult things to give, unconditionally, to ourselves.

 

 When we are unhappy with body image, our size, shape, and ourselves, self-love is nowhere to be found. We are unhappy with everything about ourselves and we believe ourselves lovable. Once in this state of mind we make it impossible for us to truly love ourselves.

 

So what does unconditional self-love look like?

 

·        It has a foundation based on the belief that we are and always will be a uniquely wonderful human being.

·        At its core is an understanding that we are not supposed to be perfect but instead a pupil of life, learning from all experiences.

·        It is built strongly through the habit of unconditional self-forgiveness.

·        It is filled with many acts of self-kindness every day.

·        At its centre is an ability to identify and chase away all the negative and untrue errors of our mind that negatively attack us.

And where do we find such sublime love? Deep within ourselves, waiting to be set free every minute of the day. So what is it that stops it shining through and feeding our souls?

 

~       Our actions of overeating and comfort eating.

~       Our inaction where physical activity would bring balance into our lives.

~       The way we wait for others to give us their love, forgetting what a store we hold within ourselves

~       The way we switch off our mind from our body and forget to eat consciously.

~       The way we fill an empty void with food instead of love.

~       The way we allow our mind to be full of negative and demotivating thoughts and beliefs.

To find this unconditional love, all we need to do is put new actions and thoughts in place to overcome the old negative ones. And how do we do this?

 

  We fall in love, all over again, with ourselves through the small and loving things we do constantly throughout the day…

 

ü      Feed our body’s with the fuel that suits it best

ü      Balance the intake of fuel with physical activity that aids our wellbeing.

ü      Forgive ourselves as often as necessary for old habits and attitudes.

ü      Find ways of loving your body image – even the ‘wobbly bits’.

 

These are the actions of unconditional self-love. They are not always easily achieved but the more we practice them the more we feel the love that we so definitely deserve.