Chrissie Webber works as a writer, business coach and motivation/ leadership trainer and is Managing Director of Life-Shapers Ltd, an online weight-loss motivation company. With over 20 years experience in the field of business and people development she has an expertise in the area of motivation for permanent weight loss.
Following a lifetime of weight issues - at her heaviest, over 21 stone and a massive size 30 – she has personal experience of diets and their devastating effect on size and psyche. With a background in nursing, psychology and business coaching, coupled with a lifetime of dieting, she developed and successfully used a series of models and tools that enhance weight loss motivation. Now over 5 dress sizes smaller and having sustained her weight loss for several years, Chrissie continues her passionate drive to change the mindsets of people away from a ‘Scarcity’ dieting mindset – where food is demonised as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ – to an ‘Abundance’ mindset where mind, body and spirit work hand in hand with food and nature.
I was watching one of those makeover programmes the other day and it struck me how much self-belief the two presenters had compared to the ladies having a makeover. Well, it wasn’t so much the surprise that the two ladies had very little self-belief in their beauty and wonderful bodies but that the presenters were so genuinely surprised at this realisation.
It is not hard to understand when so many of us had little or no positive affirmations, in childhood, that we were gorgeous and beautiful. In fact our whole lives have revolved around the absorption of messages that we are ‘Not Good Enough’, so much so that self-belief can be completely smothered.
The great thing is that we can turn this around and see our motivation for permanent weight loss sour, though the development of our own self-belief. All it takes are a few key steps…
· Stop believing that you’re ‘Not Good Enough’. The fact is you generate and hold on to your own negative beliefs, so the great news is you can also turn them around!
· Accept ‘What is’ i.e., “I am overweight” and add a codicil “And I am gradually discovering the weight I was born to be” The more you fight ‘What is’ the more your stress rises and your comfort eating increases.
· Start identifying your negative beliefs and replace them with positive ones i.e., “I am fat and ugly” can be replaced with “ I am a wonderful and lovable person.” You don’t have to fully believe it at first. Just keep telling yourself the positive.
· Start noticing the positive messages that come your way that tell you how good other people think you are. Start believing them!
The more you work on your self-belief, through loving thoughts and actions, the more your motivation rises. By taking the focus off food and onto self- love, the remarkable happens – you stop the struggle with food and fear and begin a love affair with yourself and life.
