Chrissie Webber works as a writer, business coach and motivation/ leadership trainer and is Managing Director of Life-Shapers Ltd, an online weight-loss motivation company. With over 20 years experience in the field of business and people development she has an expertise in the area of motivation for permanent weight loss.
Following a lifetime of weight issues - at her heaviest, over 21 stone and a massive size 30 – she has personal experience of diets and their devastating effect on size and psyche. With a background in nursing, psychology and business coaching, coupled with a lifetime of dieting, she developed and successfully used a series of models and tools that enhance weight loss motivation. Now over 5 dress sizes smaller and having sustained her weight loss for several years, Chrissie continues her passionate drive to change the mindsets of people away from a ‘Scarcity’ dieting mindset – where food is demonised as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ – to an ‘Abundance’ mindset where mind, body and spirit work hand in hand with food and nature.
The other day I was with someone who passed the comment “Just look at the size of her!” about a lady who was larger than nature intended. As I looked in her direction my thoughts about her revolved to the negative. Then I stopped and considered my own attitude. I was shocked and so disappointed with myself!
In the past I would have deflected this by getting angry with the other person for their prejudice. I would have felt hurt and offended that they could think so badly of a person who, like me, was overweight. Not for one minute would I have taken responsibility for my own negative thoughts! It would never have crossed my mind to reply with “Yes, doesn’t she look beautiful!”
"If you want to know what you think of yourself,
then ask yourself what you think of others and you will find the answer."
Seth
This quote sprang to mind. All the thoughts I had about the lady were actually the thoughts I had about myself! The ‘mirror’ was reflecting back at me, my own attitudes about myself. This is the mirror of learning we can use when we look at others with negative thoughts in our minds.
By rewording my thoughts and replacing the word ‘she’ with the word ‘I’, the lesson struck home. That was what I thought of myself. It was a salutary lesson and one that pinpointed for me how much work I still had to do in the area of self-love.
My own lack of self-love was reflected in my very thoughts. So I looked at her again. This time I focused on her beauty, on the soft cuddliness of her body, on the depth of love and care in her eyes. I felt a warmth and glow within me as I acknowledged these same attributes in myself. All of a sudden I had opened another door of self-love.
