Chrissie Webber works as a writer, business coach and motivation/ leadership trainer and is Managing Director of Life-Shapers Ltd, an online weight-loss motivation company. With over 20 years experience in the field of business and people development she has an expertise in the area of motivation for permanent weight loss.
Following a lifetime of weight issues - at her heaviest, over 21 stone and a massive size 30 – she has personal experience of diets and their devastating effect on size and psyche. With a background in nursing, psychology and business coaching, coupled with a lifetime of dieting, she developed and successfully used a series of models and tools that enhance weight loss motivation. Now over 5 dress sizes smaller and having sustained her weight loss for several years, Chrissie continues her passionate drive to change the mindsets of people away from a ‘Scarcity’ dieting mindset – where food is demonised as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ – to an ‘Abundance’ mindset where mind, body and spirit work hand in hand with food and nature.
Last week was one of those testing ones - you know, the ones with lots of lessons in them! The fact of the matter is that life happens and because we are only human, and not perfect, we err from our focus of comfort loving and return to comfort eating. Keeping a focus on happiness at these times is a lesson in itself.
So we turn to food when the going gets tough. Worse still, we then give ourselves a good mental beating for having eaten inappropriately. As all our negative messages flood back with vengeance our focus on happiness and self-love disappears. How helpful is that? The stress that this causes only leads us into more inappropriate eating. It is all a vicious circle!
What we actually need is love, understanding and to refocus on the thoughts and actions that make us happy. The steps to take at these trying times are easy but unfamiliar so they require practice.
Remember, this is a new mindset, abundant with love and so if you have reached out inappropriately for food try the following steps...
1. Switch off the 'Negative Natterer' that fills you with guilt and shame.
2. Reflect on the situation with empathy and understanding.
3. Reflect on what learning you can gain from your present situation.
4. Make a list of all the positive signs of love that surround you.
5. Consider the actions you can take that are self-loving.
6. NOW TAKE ACTION
7. Praise yourself for your change of thoughts and actions.
No more berating yourself for being human.
Watch how quickly you get back on track an how the happiness flows back to you.
